This is about sex; but I will start with food.
Kaiseki is the Japanese art of food. It's known for its meticulous preparation and beautiful presentation. It can be labor-intensive, use choice ingredients, and be expensive. Kaiseki is an elegant conversation between the chef and the people that they are serving. I wonder about Kaiseki and sex. As a sex educator and writer it's about having something different to say; it's about really choosing carefully how we add to the conversation - elegant course by elegant course.
It's about paying attention to all the amazing and extraordinary details of sexuality. It's not about the obvious. The obvious is so over. If there are "Foodies"; then it really time to introduce "The Sexual Artisan" because saying "Sexies" just doesn't work well. So when I write or share about sexuality; I ask myself this: "How am I expanding the conversation?" "How am I always contributing something new to the experience of sexuality?"
What I know is this: It's not about the lurid details of our own sex life. Frankly, that adds nothing to the conversation. Let's start with teaching that sex should always start with seduction. This place where our souls talk to our sexuality. Add in color, language, images, emotions, touch, anticipation - all of our senses. What is the story? The relevance?
The challenge in being a sex educator is actually having something different to say that will inspire you. Has this done the trick?
Loving you from here, Pamela Madsen