It’s not sex school,
It’s self school

Mission Statement

Back to the Body™ hosts immersive week-long retreats that transport women to beautiful, exotic locations where they can express and explore themselves in a safe, nurturing, non-judgmental environment.

Sexuality affects (and is affected by) every aspect of a woman’s life. At Back to the Body™, we embrace the complex and all-encompassing nature of sexual desire. That’s why we don’t prescribe a one-size-fits-all healing process that only works for certain women. We are here for any and every woman– for those who want change, and for those who think they can’t change.

Pamela and her staff of certified Back to the Body Method™ practitioners use their expertise to guide you through a transformative, whole-body healing journey that’s individually tailored to fit your specific needs. All you have to do is bring your body.

This is the rest of your life in one week.

Behind every great woman is herself


  • Daily complimentary hands-on bodywork sessions conducted by certified Back to the Body Method™ practitioners
  • Group discussions about body image, self-esteem, boundaries, power dynamics, expressing your needs, and opening yourself up to positive sexual experiences
  • Individual and group exercises to overcome body shame, identify your desires, and safely explore them
  • One-on-one coaching sessions with Pamela at the beginning and end of each retreat
  • Exotic, beautiful locations
  • Delicious, organic meals
  • Lifelong friendships
  • Expand arousal

backed by science

In the first published study of sexological bodywork, women who attended our retreats experienced statistically significant changes in:

body image
sexual self-image
sexual satisfaction
Read more about the study here.

In-depth interviews revealed five major themes:

feeling safe
connecting to self and others
feeling acceptance and permission
exploring arousal and pleasure
transformative life changes
Read more about the study here.

Meet the founder
Pamela Madsen

Pamela Madsen, an extraordinary somatic wellness educator, has captivated women worldwide with her transformative approach to self-discovery and intimate connection. Combining both her master’s degree in education and her certificates in sexological bodywork, Pamela's expertise extends far beyond conventional boundaries, earning her the title of a true trailblazer in the realm of women's wellness.

As the brilliant mind behind Back to the Body™ and the visionary creator of The Back To The Body Method™, Pamela has dedicated over a decade to helping women reclaim their bodies and reignite their desires. But her impact reaches even further. A pioneer in fertility and sex advocacy, she also was the Founder and first Executive Director of The American Fertility Association, appearing on Oprah, 60 Minutes, CNN, and more.

At Back to the Body™, what sets Pamela's retreats apart is her unique formula of immersive, week-long experiences that revolve around bodywork and somatic healing. Through her work, she has witnessed women emerging from the shadows of eating disorders, liberating themselves from toxic relationships, and embarking on profound spiritual journeys. Whether discovering a deeper calling or embracing self-love, Pamela knows that true empowerment begins by awakening the flame of desire within.

With a veteran's finesse, Pamela has shared her wisdom as a speaker, educator, and accomplished author. Her empowering book, Shameless: How I Ditched The Diet, Got Naked, Found True Pleasure and Still Got Home In Time To Cook Dinner, has inspired countless women to embrace their bodies, find their hearts, and unlock their power. Additionally, her insights have graced the pages of esteemed publications such as The Huffington Post and Psychology Today, cementing her as a leading voice in the field of women's sexual health and wellness.

Pamela's remarkable journey has garnered attention from prestigious platforms like, O Magazine (twice!), The New York Times,  Women’s Health, Cosmopolitan, and more, solidifying her position as an influential figure in the realm of women's wellness and earning her the title of a “vagipreneur”. Her appearances on Sex with Emily, Shameless Sex, Buzzfeed, Bustle, and more, have further amplified her message of empowerment, while her raw honesty and well-informed wit continue to dismantle the societal stigmas surrounding female desire and body image.

For Pamela, the key lies in recognizing that sexual desire intertwines with our desires in all areas of life. Once women tap into this profound undercurrent, a wave of transformation sweeps through every aspect of their existence. From igniting passion in relationships to embracing personal fulfillment, this journey becomes a catalyst for holistic well-being and self-discovery. 

Meet the Team

Learn about the People Who Will Guide Your Back to the Body Journey

Cosmo Meens, CSB

Back to the Body Vice President of Operations, Core Team Practitioner, and Certified Somatic Sex Educator

It's not easy to find and vet the best practitioners and we are literally reaching around the world to bring the brightest stars in somatic bodywork to Back to the Body. Cosmo Meens is a certified Somatic Sex Educator and Sexological Bodyworker and is the co-founder of the Happy Touch Movement.

Christie Bemis, MSW, LCSW

Director of Education & Outreach, Sex Educator, Relationship Coach, & Licensed Psychotherapist

As a Licensed Psychotherapist, Christie focuses on relationship with self and others. She is a sex educator, receiving training currently through the Somatica Institute. She focuses on self-pleasure, communication and deshamifying desires with women. Christie has a Masters in Social Welfare, is a Psychotherapist in private practice and Co-Author of Ignite Your Life: Live Life with Passion, Purpose and Play and co-founder and CEO of Hot Pink YOUniversity.

Ron Stewart, CSB

Ron Stewart has been a body worker since 2006 and has training in Reiki, Swedish, Thai, and Esalen massage techniques. In 2011 his curiosity and interest in human sexuality brought him to study with Joseph Kramer where he received certification as a Sexological Bodyworker. In 2012 Ron joined the Sexological Bodywork coaching team, assisting in the Canadian training.

Court Vox

Certified Back to the Body Method Premiere Practitioner and Back to the Body Team

Court Vox is a Somatic Sex Educator, Surrogate Partner Intern and Founder of The Body Vox, based in Los Angeles, CA. He is a father, son, lover, and compassionate friend who loves traveling, fine dining, dancing, laughing, and fantastic, embodied sex.

Neal Wecker, CSB

Somatic Sex Educator, CSB, & senior team member of Back to the Body

As a Certified Sexological Bodyworker and Somatic Sex Educator Neal Wecker is committed to offering practical, bold, and trust worthy sex and intimacy skill based education for physical, emotional, and spiritual maturity. In private sessions, workshops, and writings, Neal advocates and offers support for people to embrace and to experience their sexuality as a conscious practice towards the health and happiness they deserve.

You will learn as much from us
as you will from each other

Frequently Asked Questions

Ethics Societies & Organizations

  • The Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality

When I told you that you’ve changed my life, I sincerely meant it. You have shown me a way to find my way back to my authentic self. She was there all this time, hiding, fearing judgment and rejection. When you told me I would be a part of a supportive community I simply could not believe it. Rather I could not fathom that it could be true for me. Thank God, I was dead wrong. BttB has quieted my restlessness and calmed my fragmented heart. It has grown me in very uncomfortable AND important ways. Thank you for helping me become the person I was meant to be. I am so very grateful.


Up until very recently, hands-on sexual healing has been cloaked in secrecy, shame, and misunderstanding. But a bold new group of courageous pioneers such as Pamela Madsen is leading the way toward a deeper, richer understanding of women’s sexual pleasure as a force for health and healing that positively affects all areas of their lives. The new feminism includes embracing our erotic power, and hands on sexual healing in the right setting can be a very effective way to accomplish this.

Christiane Northrup, M.D. Author of Women's Bodies, Women's Wisdom

Dearest Pamela, You have given me a gift that is beyond description. The work you do and the care and love that you inject into your profound purpose, has completely transformed my life. You infused hope into parts of me where I wasn’t sure hope could still exist.I am a different person from when I first met you, THANK GOD, and thank YOU for your boldness, bravery, and fearless leadership that is making this world a better place. Love you so much

Chelsey Attendee

Pamela Madsen is an erotic genius who has created a six-day communal immersion process where women learn to integrate sexual arousal into all parts of their bodies and lives. Along with her extraordinary team; through group and solo practices and receiving the option of complimentary daily sensuous bodywork, participants unleash a remarkable state of sustained sexual arousal. And then are coached in ways to use that state. Back to The Body is the Master Class of my dreams. I wish I had a vulva.

Joseph Kramer, Ph.D. Co-creator of Sexological Bodywork and the Body Electric School

If you are looking for a “one size fits all” formula for female arousal, then look elsewhere because here at Back to the Body, you will find a team of highly trained, skilled body whisperers who will meet you exactly where you are, each and every time. I just completed Mastery in Mexico where I unabashedly claimed my status as an Outlier. In the midst of a powerful erotic experience, I found myself pushing my body to catch up to the experience my sisters were having, only to brought back by one of the practitioners whispering to me, “No, listen to YOUR body. What does she need?” In that moment, frustration erupted from me yet again, but this time, for the very first time, an opening occurred within my body. Permission. Permission to be different. Permission to be myself. Permission to discover MY orgasm arc, free from trauma, free from comparison, free from any models provided by experts.

Meenal Kelkar

I have attended Pamela’s Back to the Body retreats. She profoundly understands, supports and creates space for women to be their own healers and self-awakeners. The resources, body workers, rituals, education, and beautiful environment of her retreats... combined with her authentic love for women is the magical recipe that truly works. She knows instinctively when a participant needs her own space or ritual to heal and she honors that. She doesn’t subscribe to any scripts nor does she force feed anything to the women. She knows when and how to step in and provide tools/support to help a woman find her way.

Pamela’s belief and trust in a woman’s own ability to heal and empower herself is the foundation from which all her work is built.


My experience at Back to the Body taught me lessons that went way beyond the bedroom and all the way to the boardroom. I found myself feeling so naturally confident in myself that I have trouble recognizing the woman I used to be.


I always thought that something was wrong with me. All these women talking about all these fabulous experiences with sexuality. I always felt left out of the conversation. Well, that is over and I am ready for more!


I felt so seen, loved, looking after and held, grounded, tender and fierce all at the same time. I am always in awe of how much I allow myself to be more me when I’m given space to breathe and move.


I am sitting here melting into the pure deliciousness of the past few days with you. It was PURE MAGIC!! So many wide and huge emotions running through me. My body is feeling alive, electric and every cell is dancing.

Most of all, I am feeling overwhelmed with gratitude. You both give of yourselves so fully and wholeheartedly that it takes my breath away. To be at the receiving end of this immense generosity is quite exquisite, inspiring and yummy. Thank you... Thank you for taking care of me so beautifully. I felt like a queen. Nourished, tended to, cuddled, my every need anticipated and met. I loved our meals together and our shared conversations. The games we played. For the way you laughed and giggled and danced with me, felt my tears, held every piece of me with nothing but love. For helping me open places in me that I had forgotten. For the way you met and held my moments of struggle, with your huge hearts - no judgement, just compassion and love and understanding for where I was at. You made loving space for all of it. For the permission you give. Simply by being uniquely you. Thank you for this incredible playground bubble you created - with the safety and boundaries and all the toys inside to play with!! For the way you both eased in and out of different roles so effortlessly. It really is a beautiful thing to see you both in your purpose - deeply and passionately loving what you do. You inspire me with your pleasure filled and fierce devotion. Thank you for showing me this way - for the embodied experience of what can happen when pleasure is allowed to lead. You gave me a huge glimpse of what more is possible. More blank and dark spaces in me filled in - I have left this time with a new found confidence to vocalize what I want. You have helped me breathe wind into my sails again. What you offer women in this space is mesmerizing, bold and life changing... AND SO MUCH FUN!! It was the ultimate decadence to receive such a highly customized personal experience from you. It was a true pleasure to spend this time with you both. You make a beautiful team! Your combined and shared experience and attention to guide, flow and pivot was an honor to witness. There are so many beautiful moments and memories that I will hold preciously from this week. And I know that this is just the beginning. Thank you to both of you from the top and bottom of my heart. A full bodied giggling and writhing of gratitude. THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU until next time... with much love

Room Service Private Retreat Attendee

Thank you for the gift of this exquisite Portal weekend. Your work is phenomenal. I’m truly grateful to have had this taste. My heartfelt thanks to your team.

Reeca Attendee