Change & Transformation

We can change.

And the hardest thing for anyone around us is to know us in our changes and for ourselves to be committed to these changes. We love our habits. But our brains are designed to change with new learning and new experiences -- it's called neuroplasticity.

Neuroplasticity is in many ways what I am devoting a good piece of my life too. Combining somatic body experiential learning with brain learning. And it takes repetition for our mind/body to build these new neural pathways which is why I believe in immersion experiences.

And many of us will encounter resistance on the way. Resistance is just ourselves wanting to stay in our predictable places even though they cause us unhappiness. We are used to them. Sometimes, our pain is our friend.

I understand.

So many woman are afraid to be without security, not knowing what is next -- this place without certainty even for moment. She will have more reasons to stay in a painful situation than a child who has not done their homework.

Anything seems better than the unknown. Change without a map is so scary.

But if she wants to reclaim her soul bones, grow wings, and rediscover her own primitive nature she simply has to let go and not know. 

Here's another fact: We are not limited by age in our bodies/minds ability to exercise our ability to build new neural pathways. All of us can do this. It can happen as long as we are committed to learning and being willing to not go back to the familiar.

We all have places where we have deep heart hunger. Places where we are not fed; and seek to be fed. We can try to feed ourselves; touch our own skin, be responsible for our own orgasm, our own financial well being, and self love. But there is this place in so many of us where we yearn to feel love, appreciation, and desire from others.

I think that the human heart is resilient and can try and try and try to find a path and move obstacles to be met in this human thing called love and desire. Or we can sit in this place of waiting and hoping forever. At some point; we must change our path to find it. That takes guts. Another place where we sometimes get stuck is the people around us who keep us pegged as one thing as we are becoming another. And then react to our changes. That is why we need community support.

Doing the same things over and over again that doesn't bring us happiness needs to be replaced for a period of time of doing trans-formative behavior over and over again.

We have a choice.

We can change.

Loving you from here,

Pamela Madsen